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    <issuer>
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        <issuerName>STEAK &amp; SHAKE CO</issuerName>
        <issuerTradingSymbol>SNS</issuerTradingSymbol>
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            <rptOwnerName>KELLEY WAYNE L</rptOwnerName>
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        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>3800 ARCO CORPORATE DR.</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2>SUITE 300</rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>CHARLOTTE</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>NC</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>28273</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
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            <isDirector>1</isDirector>
            <isOfficer>0</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>0</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
            <officerTitle></officerTitle>
            <otherText></otherText>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>D</value>
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            <securityTitle>
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                    <value>0</value>
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                <sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
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                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
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                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>See Footnote</value>
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            <securityTitle>
                <value>Common Stock</value>
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                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>See Footnote</value>
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                <value></value>
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                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
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                    <value>See Footnote</value>
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    <derivativeTable>
        <derivativeHolding>
            <securityTitle>
                <value>Option</value>
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            <conversionOrExercisePrice>
                <value>18.26</value>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <value>2005-02-09</value>
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            <expirationDate>
                <value>2009-11-17</value>
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            <underlyingSecurity>
                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
                    <value>Common Stock</value>
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                <underlyingSecurityShares>
                    <value>5000</value>
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                <sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
                    <value>5000</value>
                </sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>D</value>
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                    <value></value>
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        </derivativeHolding>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">These shares are held by the Residuary Marital Trust U/W Estel W. Kelley.  Wayne Kelley is one of three trustees and one of several beneficiaries of this trust.  He disclaims any interest in the shares reported herein except to the extent of his pecuniary interest therein.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">These shares are held by the GST Marital Trust U/W Estel W. Kelley.  Wayne Kelley is one of three trustees and one of several beneficiaries of this trust.  He disclaims any interest in the shares reported herein except to the extent of his pecuniary interest therein.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">These shares are held by the Credit Trust U/W Estel W. Kelley.  Wayne Kelley is one of three trustees and one of several beneficiaries of this trust.  He disclaims any interest in the shares reported herein except to the extent of his pecuniary interest therein.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>David C. Milne; Attorney-in-fact</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2005-06-21</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
