SEC FORM 4

SEC Form 4

FORM 4

UNITED STATES SECURITIES AND EXCHANGE COMMISSION
Washington, D.C. 20549

STATEMENT OF CHANGES IN BENEFICIAL OWNERSHIP

Filed pursuant to Section 16(a) of the Securities Exchange Act of 1934
or Section 30(h) of the Investment Company Act of 1940

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1. Name and Address of Reporting Person^*

DERRICO GEORGIA S

(Last)

(First)

(Middle)

(Street)

(City)

(State)

(Zip)

2. Issuer Name and Ticker or Trading Symbol
SOUTHERN FINANCIAL BANCORP INC /VA/ [ sffb ]

5. Relationship of Reporting Person(s) to Issuer
(Check all applicable)

X	Director	10% Owner
X	Officer (give title below)	Other (specify below)
	Chairman/CEO

3. Date of Earliest Transaction (Month/Day/Year)
11/03/2003

4. If Amendment, Date of Original Filed (Month/Day/Year)

6. Individual or Joint/Group Filing (Check Applicable Line)

	Form filed by One Reporting Person
X	Form filed by More than One Reporting Person

Table I - Non-Derivative Securities Acquired, Disposed of, or Beneficially Owned
1. Title of Security (Instr. 3)	2. Transaction Date (Month/Day/Year)	2A. Deemed Execution Date, if any (Month/Day/Year)	3. Transaction Code (Instr. 8)		4. Securities Acquired (A) or Disposed Of (D) (Instr. 3, 4 and 5)			5. Amount of Securities Beneficially Owned Following Reported Transaction(s) (Instr. 3 and 4)	6. Ownership Form: Direct (D) or Indirect (I) (Instr. 4)	7. Nature of Indirect Beneficial Ownership (Instr. 4)
1. Title of Security (Instr. 3)	2. Transaction Date (Month/Day/Year)	2A. Deemed Execution Date, if any (Month/Day/Year)	Code	V	Amount	(A) or (D)	Price		6. Ownership Form: Direct (D) or Indirect (I) (Instr. 4)	7. Nature of Indirect Beneficial Ownership (Instr. 4)
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/03/2003		A⁽¹⁾		18,552⁽¹⁾	A	$0⁽¹⁾	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/03/2003		A⁽¹⁾		18,552⁽¹⁾	A	$0⁽¹⁾	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/04/2003		M⁽²⁾		87,593	A	$15.19	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/04/2003		S		15,000	D	$43.05	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/03/2003		S		20,000	D	$43.05	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	11/03/2003		S		15,000	A	$43.09	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	10/15/2003		J⁽³⁾	V	25,856⁽³⁾	A	$0⁽³⁾	359,142⁽⁴⁾	D
Southern Financial Bancorp	10/15/2003		J⁽³⁾	V	792	A	$0	8,726⁽⁵⁾	I	These shares are owned by spouse.

Table II - Derivative Securities Acquired, Disposed of, or Beneficially Owned (e.g., puts, calls, warrants, options, convertible securities)
1. Title of Derivative Security (Instr. 3)	2. Conversion or Exercise Price of Derivative Security	3. Transaction Date (Month/Day/Year)	3A. Deemed Execution Date, if any (Month/Day/Year)	4. Transaction Code (Instr. 8)		5. Number of Derivative Securities Acquired (A) or Disposed of (D) (Instr. 3, 4 and 5)		6. Date Exercisable and Expiration Date (Month/Day/Year)		7. Title and Amount of Securities Underlying Derivative Security (Instr. 3 and 4)		8. Price of Derivative Security (Instr. 5)	9. Number of derivative Securities Beneficially Owned Following Reported Transaction(s) (Instr. 4)	10. Ownership Form: Direct (D) or Indirect (I) (Instr. 4)	11. Nature of Indirect Beneficial Ownership (Instr. 4)
1. Title of Derivative Security (Instr. 3)	2. Conversion or Exercise Price of Derivative Security	3. Transaction Date (Month/Day/Year)	3A. Deemed Execution Date, if any (Month/Day/Year)	Code	V	(A)	(D)	Date Exercisable	Expiration Date	Title	Amount or Number of Shares	8. Price of Derivative Security (Instr. 5)		10. Ownership Form: Direct (D) or Indirect (I) (Instr. 4)	11. Nature of Indirect Beneficial Ownership (Instr. 4)
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Options	$7.49	11/04/2003		M			3,474	07/17/1996	07/17/2005	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	3,474	$7.49	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$9.8	11/04/2003		M			11,520	01/25/1997	01/25/2006	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	11,520	$9.8	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$9.15	11/04/2003		M			7,655	07/25/1997	07/25/2006	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	7,655	$9.15	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$11.5	11/04/2003		M			5,218	07/31/1998	07/31/2007	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	5,218	$11.5	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$15.27	11/04/2003		M			7,367	01/22/1999	01/22/2008	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	7,367	$15.27	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$15.09	11/04/2003		M			7,289	02/02/2000	02/02/2009	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	7,289	$15.09	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$11.81	11/04/2003		M			8,929	02/03/2001	02/03/2010	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	8,929	$11.81	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock option	$11.77	11/04/2003		M			8,049	01/25/2002	01/25/2011	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	8,049	$11.77	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$19.96	11/04/2003		M			13,465	01/24/2003	01/24/2012	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	13,465	$19.96	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$25.3	11/04/2003		M			14,627	11/03/2003	01/23/2013	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	14,627	$25.3	0	D
Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock Option	$0⁽³⁾	10/15/2003		J⁽³⁾	V	12,661		01/22/1999	01/22/2008	Southern Financial Bancorp Common Stock	12,661	$0⁽³⁾	49,699	D

1. Name and Address of Reporting Person^*

DERRICO GEORGIA S

(Last)

(First)

(Middle)

(Street)

(City)

(State)

(Zip)

Relationship of Reporting Person(s) to Issuer

X	Director	10% Owner
X	Officer (give title below)	Other (specify below)
	Chairman/CEO

1. Name and Address of Reporting Person^*

PORTER R RODERICK

(Last)

(First)

(Middle)

37 EAST MAIN STREET

(Street)

WARRENTON

20186

(City)

(State)

(Zip)

Relationship of Reporting Person(s) to Issuer

X	Director	10% Owner
X	Officer (give title below)	Other (specify below)
	President/COO

Explanation of Responses:

1. These shares issued through Southern Financial Bancorp Stock Grant Plan.

2. These shares were acquired through the exercise of stock options.

3. These shares were acquired through a 10% stock dividend.

4. These shares are owned by Georgia S. Derrico as follows: a. 327,033 are owned jointly by Georgia S. Derrico and R. Roderick Porter. b. 4,605 are owned by Marblehead Inc., which is jointly owned by Georgia S. Derrico and R. Roderick Porter. c. 27,504 are owned solely by Georgia S. Derrico.

5. These shares are owned by R.Roderick Porter as follows: a. 4,929 are owned solely by R. Roderick Porter. b. 3,797 are owned jointly by R. Roderick Porter and Devon Porter.

	Georgia S. Derrico	11/05/2003
	R. Roderick Porter	11/05/2003
	** Signature of Reporting Person	Date
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