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    <periodOfReport>2010-02-16</periodOfReport>

    <issuer>
        <issuerCik>0000859139</issuerCik>
        <issuerName>DELPHI FINANCIAL GROUP INC/DE</issuerName>
        <issuerTradingSymbol>DFG</issuerTradingSymbol>
    </issuer>

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            <rptOwnerCik>0001065132</rptOwnerCik>
            <rptOwnerName>FOX EDWARD A</rptOwnerName>
        </reportingOwnerId>
        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>C/O DELPHI CAPITAL MANAGEMENT, INC.</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2>590 MADISON AVENUE, 30TH FLOOR</rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>NEW YORK</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>NY</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>10022</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
        </reportingOwnerAddress>
        <reportingOwnerRelationship>
            <isDirector>1</isDirector>
            <isOfficer>0</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>0</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
        </reportingOwnerRelationship>
    </reportingOwner>

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                <value>Class A Common Stock</value>
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                <transactionShares>
                    <value>18633</value>
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                <transactionPricePerShare>
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                <transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
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                    <value>D</value>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <value>2001-05-10</value>
                <footnoteId id="F3"/>
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            <expirationDate>
                <value>2010-05-10</value>
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                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
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                <value>Options to purchase Class A Common Stock</value>
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                    <footnoteId id="F4"/>
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                <transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
                    <value>D</value>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <value>2000-08-08</value>
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                <value>2010-05-10</value>
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                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
                    <value>Class A Common Stock</value>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">The price indicated is the weighted average sales price for a series of open market sales transactions ranging in price from $20.65 to $20.70 per share. The reporting person has provided to the issuer information regarding the number of shares sold at each separate price, and such information will be provided to the SEC staff or any security holder of the issuer upon request.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">Amounts reflect adjustments pursuant to the terms of the option plan under which such options were granted to reflect the effects of all stock dividends and stock splits having occurred since the date of grant thereof.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">The options vested in five substantially equal annual installments beginning on May 10, 2001.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F4">Not applicable.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F5">The options vested in four substantially equal 90-day installments beginning on August 8, 2000.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>Chad W. Coulter, Attorney-in-Fact for Edward A. Fox</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2010-02-18</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
