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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">Disposed of pursuant to merger agreement between issuer and Computer Associates International, Inc. in exchange for the right to receive $10.75 per share.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">This option granted 9/10/1997, which provided for a 5% vesting quarterly over a 5-year period, was canceled in the merger between issuer and Computer Associates International, Inc. in exchange for a cash payment of $7,877.92, representing the difference between the exercise price of the option and $10.75.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">This option granted 5/18/2000, which provided for options to vest 50% annually over a 2-year period, was canceled in the merger between issuer and Computer Associates International, Inc.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F4">This option granted 3/15/2002, which provided for options to vest 25% annually over a 4-year period, was canceled in the merger between issuer and Computer Associates International, Inc.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F5">This option granted 3/15/2002, which provided for options to vest 50% annually over a 2-year period, was canceled in the merger between issuer and Computer Associates International, Inc.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F6">This option granted 2/25/2003, which provided for a 25% vesting annually over a 4-year period, was canceled in the merger in exchange for a cash payment of $95,250.00, representing the difference between the exercise price of the option and $10.75.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F7">This option granted 3/12/2004, which provided for a 5% quarterly vesting over a 5-year period, was canceled in the merger in exchange for a cash payment of $35,550.00, representing the difference between the exercise price of the option and $10.75.</footnote>
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    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>Ralph B. Wagner</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2004-11-24</signatureDate>
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</ownershipDocument>

