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    <periodOfReport>2013-09-06</periodOfReport>

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    <issuer>
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        <issuerName>CROSS A T CO</issuerName>
        <issuerTradingSymbol>ATX</issuerTradingSymbol>
    </issuer>

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            <rptOwnerCik>0001315683</rptOwnerCik>
            <rptOwnerName>Mellen Charles S</rptOwnerName>
        </reportingOwnerId>
        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>ONE ALBION ROAD</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2></rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>LINCOLN</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>RI</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>02865</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
        </reportingOwnerAddress>
        <reportingOwnerRelationship>
            <isDirector>0</isDirector>
            <isOfficer>1</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>0</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
            <officerTitle>President, Cross Accessory Div</officerTitle>
            <otherText></otherText>
        </reportingOwnerRelationship>
    </reportingOwner>

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                <value>Class A Common Stock</value>
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                    <value>31667</value>
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                </transactionPricePerShare>
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                    <value>55000</value>
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                <value>Class A Common Stock</value>
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                <value>2013-09-06</value>
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                    <value>D</value>
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        </nonDerivativeTransaction>
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    <derivativeTable>
        <derivativeTransaction>
            <securityTitle>
                <value>Stock Option (Right to Purchase)</value>
            </securityTitle>
            <conversionOrExercisePrice>
                <value>3.495</value>
            </conversionOrExercisePrice>
            <transactionDate>
                <value>2013-09-06</value>
            </transactionDate>
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                <equitySwapInvolved>0</equitySwapInvolved>
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            <transactionAmounts>
                <transactionShares>
                    <value>100000</value>
                </transactionShares>
                <transactionPricePerShare>
                    <value>0</value>
                </transactionPricePerShare>
                <transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
                    <value>D</value>
                </transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <value>2009-12-12</value>
            </exerciseDate>
            <expirationDate>
                <value>2019-12-12</value>
            </expirationDate>
            <underlyingSecurity>
                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
                    <value>Class A Common Stock</value>
                </underlyingSecurityTitle>
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                    <value>100000</value>
                </underlyingSecurityShares>
            </underlyingSecurity>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">This filing is made to reflect the vesting of performance based restricted stock, which was granted on April 21, 2010 and which vested in connection with the issuer's sale of its Cross Accessory Division on September 6, 2013.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">This filing is made to reflect the vesting of performance based restricted stock, which was granted on February 22, 2012 and which vested in connection with the issuer's sale of its Cross Accessory Division on September 6, 2013.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">This filing is made to reflect the vesting of performance based restricted stock, which was granted on February 22, 2012 and which vested in connection with the issuer's sale of its Cross Accessory Division on September 6, 2013.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>Tina C. Benik (Attorney-in-fact for Charles S. Mellen)</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2013-09-10</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
