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        <issuerName>RALCORP HOLDINGS INC /MO</issuerName>
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            <rptOwnerName>HUBER CHARLES G JR</rptOwnerName>
        </reportingOwnerId>
        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>800 MARKET STREET</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2></rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>ST. LOUIS</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>MO</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>63101</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
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            <isOfficer>1</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>0</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
            <officerTitle>Corporate V.P. &amp; Pres RFBP</officerTitle>
            <otherText></otherText>
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                    <value>By 401(K) Plan</value>
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                <value>2010-03-04</value>
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                    <value>0</value>
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                    <value>A</value>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <footnoteId id="F3"/>
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            <expirationDate>
                <value>2011-02-25</value>
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                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
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                <sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">Non-Qualified Option exercise and sale of shares acquired was made pursuant to a 10b5-1 Plan.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">Tranasactions in Issuer's 401(K)Plan, Executive Savings Investment Plan, and Deferred Compensation Plan are made through the acquisition or disposition of units rather than actual shares.  The value of units are re-valued rather than based upon earnings or losses and appreciation or depreciation on the underlying investments, and adjustments for contributions to, transfers to and from, and distributions from the applicable investment fund.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">25% exercisable on February 26 in years 2004, 2005, 2006 and 2007.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>Gregory A. Billhartz, Attorney-in-Fact for Charles G. Huber, Jr.</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2010-03-08</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
