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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">Kojaian Managagement Corporation is the sole member of Kojaian Holdings LLC. C. Michael Kojaian, the Reporting Person, owns 50% of Kojaian Management Corporation and Mike Kojaian owns the remaining 50%.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">Mr. Kojaian is the indirect beneficial owner of 1,000,000 shares of common stock of the Company held by Kojaian Ventures, L.L.C. The sole members of Kojaian Ventures, L.L.C. are Mr. Kojaian and Kojaian Ventures-MM, Inc. of which Mr. Kojaian is the sole stockholder.</footnote>
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    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>/s/ Walter K. Horn, Attorney-in-Fact for C. Michael Kojaian</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2009-06-17</signatureDate>
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