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    <periodOfReport>2008-06-30</periodOfReport>

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    <issuer>
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        <issuerName>ARBOR REALTY TRUST INC</issuerName>
        <issuerTradingSymbol>ABR</issuerTradingSymbol>
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            <rptOwnerName>KAUFMAN IVAN</rptOwnerName>
        </reportingOwnerId>
        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>C/O ARBOR REALTY TRUST, INC.</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2>333 EARLE OVINGTON BLVD., STE. 900</rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>UNIONDALE</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>NY</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>11553</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
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            <isDirector>1</isDirector>
            <isOfficer>1</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>1</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
            <officerTitle>COB, CEO and President</officerTitle>
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                    <value>By Arbor Commercial Mortgage, LLC</value>
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                <value>Special Voting Preferred Stock</value>
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                <value>Common Stock, par value $.01 per share</value>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>I</value>
                </directOrIndirectOwnership>
                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>By son, Maurice Kaufman under Uniform Gift to Minors Act</value>
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                <value>Common Stock, par value $.01 per share</value>
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                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>By son, Adam Kaufman under Uniform Gift to Minors Act</value>
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            <securityTitle>
                <value>Common Stock, par value $.01 per share</value>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>I</value>
                </directOrIndirectOwnership>
                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>By spouse, Lisa Kaufman</value>
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            <securityTitle>
                <value>Redeemable Paired Partnership Units</value>
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                <transactionCode>C</transactionCode>
                <equitySwapInvolved>0</equitySwapInvolved>
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                <value></value>
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                    <value>3776069</value>
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            <expirationDate>
                <footnoteId id="F3"/>
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            <underlyingSecurity>
                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
                    <value>Common Stock of Arbor Realty Trust, Inc.</value>
                </underlyingSecurityTitle>
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                    <value>3776069</value>
                </underlyingSecurityShares>
            </underlyingSecurity>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>I</value>
                </directOrIndirectOwnership>
                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>By Arbor Commercial Mortgage, LLC</value>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">Shares of Special Voting Preferred Stock (the &quot;SVP Stock&quot;) are paired with an equal number of units of limited partnership interest in Arbor Realty Limited Partnership (&quot;ARLP&quot;), the operating partnership of Arbor Realty Trust, Inc. (&quot;ART&quot;). Pursuant to the Amended and Restated Partnership Agreement of ARLP, the units of limited partnership interest held by Arbor Commercial Mortgage, LLC (&quot;ACM&quot;) are redeemable at the election of the holder, for cash or, at the election of ART for shares of common stock of ART (the &quot;Redeemable Paired Partnership Units&quot;).  When and if ACM redeems a Redeemable Paired Partnership Unit and ART elects to issue ACM shares of ART's common stock upon such redemption, the corresponding shares of SVP Stock are automatically redeemed and cancelled.  On June 30, 2008, ACM redeemed 3,776,069 Redeemable Paired Partnership Units and ART elected to issue ACM the equivalent number of shares of ART's common stock upon such redemption.  (Continued on footnote 2)</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">(Continuted from footnote 1) Therefore, the corresponding shares of SVP Stock were automatically redeemed and cancelled.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">These Redeemable Paired Partnership Units were exercisable as of October 3, 2004 and they did not have an expiration date.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>/s/ Ivan Kaufman</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2008-07-02</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
