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    <periodOfReport>2011-08-29</periodOfReport>

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    <issuer>
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        <issuerName>RALCORP HOLDINGS INC /MO</issuerName>
        <issuerTradingSymbol>RAH</issuerTradingSymbol>
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    <reportingOwner>
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            <rptOwnerCik>0001269057</rptOwnerCik>
            <rptOwnerName>KOULOURIS RICHARD R</rptOwnerName>
        </reportingOwnerId>
        <reportingOwnerAddress>
            <rptOwnerStreet1>800 MARKET STREET</rptOwnerStreet1>
            <rptOwnerStreet2>SUITE 2900</rptOwnerStreet2>
            <rptOwnerCity>ST. LOUIS</rptOwnerCity>
            <rptOwnerState>MO</rptOwnerState>
            <rptOwnerZipCode>63101</rptOwnerZipCode>
            <rptOwnerStateDescription></rptOwnerStateDescription>
        </reportingOwnerAddress>
        <reportingOwnerRelationship>
            <isDirector>0</isDirector>
            <isOfficer>1</isOfficer>
            <isTenPercentOwner>0</isTenPercentOwner>
            <isOther>0</isOther>
            <officerTitle>Vice President</officerTitle>
            <otherText></otherText>
        </reportingOwnerRelationship>
    </reportingOwner>

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                <value>Ralcorp Holdings, Inc. $.01 Par Value Common Stock</value>
            </securityTitle>
            <transactionDate>
                <value>2011-08-29</value>
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                    <value>7197</value>
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                <transactionPricePerShare>
                    <value>24.41</value>
                </transactionPricePerShare>
                <transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
                    <value>A</value>
                </transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
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                <sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
                    <value>52197</value>
                </sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
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                    <value>D</value>
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                <value>Ralcorp Holdings, Inc. $.01 Par Value Common Stock</value>
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                <value>2011-08-29</value>
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                    <value>1669</value>
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                <transactionPricePerShare>
                    <value>85.60</value>
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                    <value>D</value>
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                    <value>50528</value>
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                <value>Ralcorp Holdings, Inc. $.01 Par Value Common Stock</value>
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                    <value>D</value>
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                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>D</value>
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                <value>Ralcorp Holdings, Inc. $.01 Par Value Common Stock</value>
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                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>I</value>
                    <footnoteId id="F3"/>
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                <natureOfOwnership>
                    <value>Executive SIP &amp; Def. Comp.</value>
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        </nonDerivativeHolding>
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        <derivativeTransaction>
            <securityTitle>
                <value>Employee Stock Option with Tax Withholding Right</value>
            </securityTitle>
            <conversionOrExercisePrice>
                <value>24.41</value>
            </conversionOrExercisePrice>
            <transactionDate>
                <value>2011-08-29</value>
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            <deemedExecutionDate></deemedExecutionDate>
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            <transactionAmounts>
                <transactionShares>
                    <value>7197</value>
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                <transactionPricePerShare>
                    <value>0</value>
                </transactionPricePerShare>
                <transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
                    <value>D</value>
                </transactionAcquiredDisposedCode>
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            <exerciseDate>
                <footnoteId id="F4"/>
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            <expirationDate>
                <value>2012-01-30</value>
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            <underlyingSecurity>
                <underlyingSecurityTitle>
                    <value>$.01 Par Value Common Stock</value>
                </underlyingSecurityTitle>
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                    <value>7197</value>
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                <sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
                    <value>0</value>
                </sharesOwnedFollowingTransaction>
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            <ownershipNature>
                <directOrIndirectOwnership>
                    <value>D</value>
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            </ownershipNature>
        </derivativeTransaction>
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    <footnotes>
        <footnote id="F1">The exercise of Reporting Person's non-qualified stock option exercise and sale of shares acquired were made during an open window period.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F2">This price represents the average purchase price for multiple transactions on this line.  The prices of the transactions reported on this line ranged from $86.10 - $86.39.  Upon request by the SEC staff, the Issuer or Security Holder of the Issuer, the Reporting Person will undertake to provide full information regarding the number of shares and prices at which the transactions were effected.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F3">Transactions in Issuer's 401(K) Plan, Executive Savings Investment Plan, and Deferred Compensation Plan are made through the acquisition or disposition of units rather than actual shares. The value of units are re-valued rather than based upon earnings or losses and appreciation or depreciation on the underlying investments, and adjustments for contributions to, transfers to and from, and distributions from the applicable investment fund.</footnote>
        <footnote id="F4">25% of the award became exercisable on January 31, 2005, 2006, 2007 and 2008.  The award was scheduled to expire on January 30, 2012 and any shares not exercised by that date would have been forfeited.</footnote>
    </footnotes>

    <remarks></remarks>

    <ownerSignature>
        <signatureName>Gregory A. Billhartz, Attorney-in-Fact for Richard R. Koulouris</signatureName>
        <signatureDate>2011-08-31</signatureDate>
    </ownerSignature>
</ownershipDocument>
